What do we have at age 30?

This morning, a longtime friend asked me if there was a quiet, empty cafe with strong wifi suitable for writing?

When I was 30 years old, when I needed a gentler, quieter space, I realized there weren’t many shops like that in Hanoi.

In our 20s, we are happy when we are with others and feel `psychotic` when we are alone.

At age 20, we need to go out, breathe the bustling atmosphere, love and feel like we are not lost in this life.

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At age 30, instead of telling each other about love, flirting girls, work, money-making plans or trips to the highlands like in our 20s, he and I

He says it is a psychological enlightenment, a pilgrimage to know the true nature of life: It is to be alone to experience the world.

I understand very well what he shared, which is an understanding between two single men in their 30s who share a passion for literature, not an understanding at the tip of the tongue.

My 20s passed in a crazy way.

Up to now, if I could choose again, I would still do the same thing, but with a more focused attitude.

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Going back to why turning 30 is an important time in a person’s life when the full-of-life 20s pass?

According to my observation, we all have piled up a bunch of things that a life must be done by the age of 20, such as finding our passion, our dreams, and then passing our studies.

Many of us feel useless and unhappy if we do not reach the acceptable threshold of what the outside world and society think we should have and should be.

There will be people who reluctantly choose a few things to fit into the picture of their life and accept it.

And turning 30 is the right time when we all went through our 20s with foolishness and naivety as well as throwing many great wishes into the world: Everything is still the same, we

Age 30 is the time that philosophy, meditation or religion want people to aim for – Realizing the value of oneself right now, right now is the ultimate happiness when many people are in their 20s.

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People in their 30s can be happy being alone without having to panic like they were in their 20s. And when we can be at peace with ourselves, joy will arise from within.

At the age of 30, it is easier for us to see things more multidimensionally, to accept what is possible and impossible, and most importantly, we are more patient and love ourselves more.

At age 20, you think that pain comes from other people causing you.

I shared with him that during this time, when I’m alone, I can write a lot (such as this article) without feeling distracted like when I was 20. When I look around, I see

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Progress at age 30 is a distorted definition in the eyes of those around you.

And when I thought to suggest to my brother that he could read the book The Walden – Living Alone in the Forest by Henry David Thoreau to see how necessary the value of living alone is, he said that he would also go to the forest to camp.

`The mind is sharper and sharper in solitude and inactivity. Thinking does not require a large laboratory. Be alone, that is the secret of invention.

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People in their 30s are empty-handed