Talking with parents at the Ho Chi Minh City Mothers’ Association, Dr. Vu Thu Huong (lecturer at Hanoi University of Education) said that in the process of raising children, many parents often only focus on educating them on how to do things.
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According to Dr. Thu Huong, the behavior of parents in every situation will greatly affect the behavior of children in similar situations.
`Everyone has times when they are not successful in life because they have too high expectations for something. When the results are not as expected, they feel disappointed. Everyone says ‘failure is the mother of success’, but if you don’t know
On the contrary, in some cases, parents’ wise and reasonable behavior will promote good educational effects, helping children understand what is right and wrong.
For example, Ms. Hanh (District 2, Ho Chi Minh City) has a daughter named Loan, in 2nd grade. She has a pretty good and inspiring voice.
Hearing the news of being eliminated, the daughter rushed towards her mother, expressed extreme disappointment and burst into tears.
Little Loan filled in the blanks exactly as Hanh wished: To avoid being eliminated, she had to practice singing in chorus with her friends.
After the child wrote, Ms. Hanh read it again and told the child: `I really felt sorry for you when you were eliminated, but I think you will succeed next time.`
To know how to help your children overcome pressures and failures in life, Dr. Thu Huong has some suggestions for parents as follows:
– Signs that a child is under pressure: Teeth clenched, body tense, breathing rate increases… If you recognize those signs, help remove them from your child.
– Don’t scold your children when they fail because they themselves are suffering a lot.
– You can take your child to find ways to reduce stress and pressure such as going to the mountains, swimming lessons, sports…
– Tell your child to understand that everyone is very tired when climbing a mountain, and halfway up they want to rest and go down.
– Respect your child even when he or she is not being nice: If you still respect your child even when he or she is misbehaving, your child will know the behavior you expect from him or her.
– Children often follow their parents’ example.
– Closeness: One of the biggest mistakes parents make is separating themselves from their children while they are growing up.
– Set limits at a young age: If you pamper your child too much in the first years of life, he will later demand that you meet all his higher needs.
– Teaching children how to communicate effectively will have a great effect in dealing with their anger later on.
– Physical punishment should not be applied.
– Confide: When parents create a close relationship with their children like friends, children will trust them to confide their joys and sorrows so that their parents can have timely advice for the frustrations they encounter in life.